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Leveraging Your Relationships #2: How To Achieve Better Relationships

Now that you have got the idea what leveraging is I want you to know how you can improve upon your relationships? Most of you would know might these simple steps and may know that it is not a rocket science.

The day when you make your first relationship (the day when you are born) you grab the attention of your mom by crying. This practice of grabbing attention stays but the mode with which it is attained changes with age.You give a smile, and that’s the beginning of a positive relationship. But to sustain it you need and later utilize it, it requires certain efforts.

Some days back I had a target to complete a project, simultaneously; I had to make a presentation, both the tasks were of high priority. I asked a colleague of mine for some help to make the presentation. I just asked her to make a skeleton for it and I would add the rest of the details. But to my surprise she completed the whole presentation for me and I got out with both the targets with flying colors. I didn’t forget to appreciate her in front of the team for the help she provided me.

This was a leverage of my relationship with her. Over the period of time I have developed a very positive rapport with my colleagues that we have a very healthy competition and a great helping team.

I achieved this by following certain simple steps.

Respect: You should be giving respect to the other person; it comes by talking with respect, sticking to time or being punctual with appointments and keeping your commitments. You never know how much it hurts the other person when you don’t keep your commitments.

No disparaging: You should not disparage your friends, colleagues in front of others and even behind them. You never know when your deed reaches your friend/colleague and in what format.

With family members it’s even simpler.
Working closely with family: any assignments or a group activity should be participated with full heart.

Reminding some good old moments: When you are out of touch with a colleague or a friend you can make him remember certain cherished old moments and repeat them more often.

Show interest in future endeavors: Whenever there are discussions in your family/office team show genuine interest and put relevant inputs after researching that subject. This would also help develop your knowledge base.

Help: Try to help from the bottom of your heart as your eyes will surely say whether you are genuinely interested in the tasks/talks or not.

If you don’t want it the straight way to build relationships then you learn to kiss ass from Jon.

Well, I follow a mixture of these tips and I am growing at a decent pace in my organization as well as sharing a beautiful relationship with my friends and family members.

I would pose similar questions to the readers; how well they are with their relationships? and are they in a position to leverage it? And do you think you can add to the list that I have provided above?

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A Five Stage Process of Getting Debt Free

It’s over a year and a half that I am in a bad debt situation and surprisingly it’s nearly one and a half years that I am into a paid job. If I correlate the two then I can conclude that steady income flow increased my debt taking tendency. In other words I will say that the security of getting my paycheck made me to overspend.

When I gave it a thought so as to find the reason for the above I could come up with only one reason I can pay it later when I get my paycheck. If I talk in time frames then I was spending future money into present but the problem with this concept is that you cannot account for future expenses (always) which come as an emergency e.g. bike/car repairs, health problems and many such unforeseen incidents/events.

So what happens next? I have already spent that money in the past and now I am stuck with a high credit card bill with no money to pay for, the result a bad debt and more importantly a way to a debt trap.

The cause: credit card spending! No, the cause here is trying to afford that you can’t just by assuming valid reasons for buying at that moment, but later in debt trap you feel that you could have deferred your purchase. For example, I need a new car, (mental process: the car I am driving is making sound, the mileage is very less and asks for more maintenance so why not replace it, I am getting a good deal with XX dealer). Next day you are with a new car along with a big debt on your head.

Now you are desperate to get out of it but you can’t as you cannot overclock your debt reduction process due to a simple reason, you don’t have any extra source of income and the debt brings interest and other charges with itself which further enhances it.

In this case my mind stopped thinking constructively for alternatives for reducing the debt as it is already preoccupied by the huge debt. The result, time wastage over trivial things and not be able to devise a plan. So what should I do? Well there is a way, which I am following and trying to get out of debt. Continue reading →